In this compelling episode of Therapists’ Take, we sit down with family law attorney and author Brian Putnam to unpack the complex and often misunderstood reality of domestic abuse. Drawing on decades of legal experience and personal insight, Brian shares what it truly takes to break free from abuse—and the critical steps toward safety, justice, and healing.

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00:00 - Hi, Carrie! (Intro)

01:38 - Guest: Brian Putnam

02:50 - The Reason for the Book

06:14 - Who Should Read It

09:15 - Encyclopedia of Domestic Abuse

17:43 - Healing the Wounds

28:30 - Breaking Free & Safety Planning

34:04 - Preventing Domestic Abuse

About Our Guest:

Brian Putnam is an experienced attorney, advocate, and author of Escaping Domestic Abuse: A Step-by-Step Guide to Breaking Free. Through his legal work and writing, Brian provides survivors with clear, compassionate guidance for navigating the legal system and safely leaving abusive situations.

For more information about Brian and/or the legal services his team provides, please visit https://www.PutnamLawOffice.com.

To purchase the book, Escaping Domestic Abuse: A Step-by-Step Guide to Breaking Free, you can do so by clicking the following link - https://amzn.to/47zeFeS

As Amazon Affiliates, we earn from qualifying purchases.

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Domestic Abuse Resources

• Escaping Domestic Abuse (book) by Brian Putnam – see link above
• National Domestic Violence Hotline – 1 (800) 799-SAFE(7233)
• YWCA - https://www.ywca.org/

 Oklahoma Specific Domestic Abuse Resources

• OK Domestic Violence Hotline – 1 (800) 522-SAFE (7233)
• YWCA OKC– https://www.ywcaokc.org/
• Palomar - https://palomarokc.org/
• Cardinal Point - https://cardinalpointok.org/
• Latino Community Development - https://www.lcdaok.com/
• Sanctuary Women’s Development - https://www.catholiccharitiesok.org/

Other Resources Mentioned

• The 12 Types of Gaslighting (blog) - Vulnerability Exploitation: Twelve Typologies of Gaslighting Found in Committed Couple Relationships - Family Solutions Counseling
• The 12 Types of Gaslighting (youtube series) - https://youtu.be/6XANUX7K2aU?si=Js5sNwx4IRYNd63R
• Gaslighting (YouTube Playlist) - https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLmpKQiGv_EQ7Rh-Jc_Asg4Rm5BC-m9v2e&si=Q2h-QUTB_0-65TBN
• EMDR - https://youtu.be/G692ymBkg-4?si=1FBu-h6VCNYMPccG
• EMDR (podcast episode) - Episode 22: On EMDR - What Is … - Therapists' Take with Carrie and Josh - Apple Podcasts
• Scary Relationships - https://www.youtube.com/live/Rs-HIvN--WI?si=oSR6LGcm4YyHzyVj
• Scary Relationships (podcast) - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/episode-01-on-scary-relationships/id1717516278?i=1000635486694

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